Friday, August 3, 2012

Let me put somethings into perspective... Well from my perspective.

Ok so in the last few days , things have gotten a little heated. It has caused family members to unfriend, and has also caused a lot of disappointment in who I thought people were. It all started with a Sandwich and a Toy. I've tried to see both sides of the "Argument" ,I've listened to other's views.
So here goes, I posted a status on my page Wednesday night saying
"To those of who are in support of Chick fil A by saying they are just exercising their first amendment rights. Please do me a HUGE favor and Unfriend me . Financially backing hate groups is not about free speech! LYING about the safety of toys in your kids meals because The Jim Henson Company called you out on your bullshit and severed their business agreement IS NOT ABOUT FREE SPEECH"
This prompted a 64 comment response thread.I'm not a political person, as a matter o fact I try to avoid political talk because it always ends up with someone being an asshole and someone hurt. I try to accept EVERYONE for who they are and listen to what they have to say because I would hope they would do the same in return.
Here's where things get personal. And I'm going to share ALOT of personal information that MOST of my close friends know about me and my family. And PRIMARILY THE REASON WHY I AM AS FIRED UP ABOUT THIS WHOLE SITUATION.
My parents are two of the most amazing people you could ever meet I mean come on now.. They made me :)
My Parents Married in 1970, by 1980 had two children and by 1990 legally separated.After 20 years of marriage my father came out of the closet. He fought who he was for his entire life because of what the christian religion and society deemed " RIGHT".
When he went to seek guidance from the priest at the church our family attended the priest told him to stay married and to live his life a complete and total LIE.
This caused him to fall into such a severe depression for a good part of my childhood. Honestly all I can remember from that period of time was Dad would wake up in the morning give us a kiss goodbye before he went to work , come home , eat dinner and go to bed.
After they separated there was lots of therapy sessions , there was lots of tears, And then there was lots of Healing. I have a very unique family, I had a very unique upbringing.
Throughout all of this my Mother became the strongest person I know. I can only strive to be a fraction of who she is. At times the Independence I've learned from her gets me in trouble.
After all was said and done, My Parents are still really good friends. They showed us that even through something this difficult. You still have to be PARENTS, you still are there for you kids no matter what.
I pride myself on they way I was raised because it turned me into the person that I am. It taught me to LOVE people for WHO THEY ARE. Not to hate them for what everyone else thinks is different. I try my hardest to teach my daughters the same.
So when I started reading all the garbage about Chick Fil A , It started to make my BLOOD BOIL.
Anyone who knows me , knows it takes ALOT to get me upset. I'm almost always the first one to say CALM DOWN.
In the last few days I've seen family members who I respected and love, make ignorant hurtful statements that were just heartbreaking.
All because of a stupid sandwich and a toy.
Here's the FACTS-
Yes the owner of CFL has the right to say how he feels about gay marriage. Yes HE has the right to give HIS money to who ever he wants.
HOWEVER, when a COMPANY gives money to an organisation that has been deemed a HATE GROUP.
ITS A COMPANY , NOT A PERSON.
THE COMPANY IS NOT EXERCISING FREE SPEECH. THEY ARE FUNDING HATE.
The company is giving money to a group that is trying to "Cure" people of being gay (Exodus International)
Here let me cure you of having blue eyes.... Oh wait.. That's right.. You were born with those.
This company is giving money to a group that wants marriage to be defined as One Woman One Man. (Family Research Council)
Family Research Council believes that homosexual conduct is harmful to the persons who engage in it and to society at large, and can never be affirmed. It is by definition unnatural, and as such is associated with negative physical and psychological health effects. While the origins of same-sex attractions may be complex, there is no convincing evidence that a homosexual identity is ever something genetic or inborn. We oppose the vigorous efforts of homosexual activists to demand that homosexuality be accepted as equivalent to heterosexuality in law, in the media, and in schools. Attempts to join two men or two women in "marriage" constitute a radical redefinition and falsification of the institution, and FRC supports state and federal constitutional amendments to prevent such redefinition by courts or legislatures. Sympathy must be extended to those who struggle with unwanted same-sex attractions, and every effort should be made to assist such persons to overcome those attractions, as many already have...
WTF? I can find ways where the effects Heterosexuality falls into the same "Dangerous Practices". Heterosexuals can get ALL the same diseases Homosexuals can get. Also I am speaking as someone who has given birth twice (Had medical issues due to being pregnant both times), and has had post partem depression.
Did you happen to read the part above where the FRC supports state and federal constitutional amendments to prevent redefinition by courts or legislatures??????
SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE!!!
Here's a little bit of an eye opener for some of you. HYPOTHETICALLY lets say tomorrow people found out that Arby's was owned by a someone who was donating LARGE amounts of money in the name of Arby's to The Taliban or the KKK .
Does that clear up a little bit more of the confusion?
People who go to CFA in the name of the first amendment are hiding behind the first amendment just like The Westboro Baptist Church hides behind it.

6 comments:

  1. I cant believe what the priest told your dad! I am a christian and I think that a true christian DOES NOT JUDGE! And I believe a true christian believes that God loves everyone no matter what. Your dad seems like he is a really good person and thats all that matters.

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  2. Jaci I am so sorry you are going through this... my heart goes out to you and your family... you know I love you no matter what and that I do not judge you... I think that is up to my maker... Jesus said to love everyone and leave the rest to Him.... love you

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  3. Don't forget that the COO of CFA also was saying that they are all still married to their first wives, indicating to me that they would consider me, a divorce' not a person. All we can do is try to do what we feel is right and not let it bother us. Unfortunately Facebook is not always the best venue to voice strong opinions and yes, you will loose friends that way. But at least it was on-line and not in a bar or somewhere you really needed them to back you up. Don't let it get to you too much. I know it is hard, but chin up lady! And as Kath said do no harm and leave the rest to the great maker in the sky. Hugs.

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  4. I'm more upset about the people who keep claiming its a free speach matter. They claim to be followers of the bible and that they live thier lives in a biblical manner. They beleive homosexuals are an abomination acording to Leviticus 18:22, Yet you don't see them selling their daughters as slaves Exodus 21:7, They all LOVE thier football in the south , yet they all ignore Leviticus 11:7 touching the skin of a swine is considdered unclean. I could go ON and ON and ON. Defending the ones I love is more important than the words in a book written over 2000 years ago. And yet these family members who are LOVED and still LOVED choose to side with strangers who HATE.

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  5. I think a lot of religions follow only the old testament. Jesus changed a lot of the laws in the new testament. He even states in Matthew 15:18 What goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.'"
    1 timothy 4:3 They will try to stop people from marrying and from eating certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.

    Which is why I consider myself nondenominational. I dont like religion. Just the bible. I think there are a lot of good morals if you follow the bible right. Not follow the religions. Jesus loved even the prostitutes! You know he loved the homosexuals too!
    John 13:34 "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
    Like i said Jesus changed a lot of the laws in the new testament. Love is really the greatest thing. And for someone to think a homosexual is an abomination...especially someone who claims to be a follower of the bible...then let them "cast the first stone "

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